Sorry to say, but I saw this kind of story coming from a mile away.
An NBA player and his girlfriend were brutally stabbed by a random assailant, after an fight broke out between the player and a guy who was “eavesdropping on their private conversation” outside a NYC nightclub.
And by “conversation” of course, witnesses mean it was a “lover’s quarrel.”
Now maybe there’s more to this story that will come out in the coming days, but the basic shape of it seems clear. A guy stuck his nose into somebody’s business, and it ended up very, very badly.
But wait! We were lectured by serious looking NFL players that the days of saying…. (and these are actual quotes)…
“What’s the big deal…”
“He just has a temper…”
“Not my problem…”
“I’ll say something next time…”
“I’m sure they’ll work it out…”
… were now banished with the directive of ACTION of these two simple words – “NO MORE!”
Even Cris Carter said with his big, sad, serious eyes… “No more bystanding.”
Well, maybe this knife wielding maniac was trying to break up a domestic violence assault, and he was acting in self defense? We know this… HE WASN’T MINDING HIS OWN BUSINESS during this argument, and that’s what precipitated the entire bloody horror show.
The argument that we must all enlist now as unpaid domestic violence beat cops (NO MORE!) always struck me as simplistic at best, and insulting at worst. It’s as if WE have been silent co-conspirators to domestic abuse for years. Shame on us!
In reality, it’s a messy, complicated, 50-Shades of gray area issue. I once knew a couple who would literally SCREAM at each other while hosting a party with company in their house, and it blew me away. But I don’t think they ever HIT each other.
Should I have “said something” back then?
Guys and their girls have been getting into verbal fights outside of nighclubs forever. What should we do now, Eli Manning? Call the cops, even if no punches are thrown?
It’s very politically incorrect to say this, but the issue of domestic violence is ultimately solvable by essentially one party: the victims. Until women can convince each other to simply not put up with a man laying a violent finger on them, there’s no amount of helpful “butting in” that will make an even meaningful dent in the problem.
But hey, it might just end up getting you SHOT someday, so there’s that to look forward to! But don’t worry. I’m sure the former NFL players in that video will show up to your funeral.